Sharing tips, tricks, good and horror stories to hack the relationship and dating world
My previous relationship and attachment style, in my opinion, severely damaged my perspective on relationships.
In addition to being ND and having an anxious-preoccupied attachment style, I also experienced a violent traumatic event when I was a young adult. I guess the basis of the problem is my childhood relationships with my parents (maybe also the trauma, though that might be ptsd). I always felt like I had to put on a show to win... Read more
I am thrown out of bed by my boyfriend's daughter and I'm not sure how to fix this.
I got thrown out of bed by my boyfriend's kid. On the weekends, he is allowed to see him. She will try to lay vertically while she is with us in the middle of the night by crawling into our twin-sized bed and pushing with her feet and butt. He didn't try to relocate her when we were both awakened... Read more
Why do narcissists start fights at random times and then refuse to talk to you until you "apologize" even though you did nothing wrong?
Narcissists seek control and power. Lack of emotion or the inability to process one's emotions might lead to irrational arguments.
Random fights can sometimes be used to gaslight you into thinking that you are the issue. Blaming yourself is a way to seize mental control while remaining in control.
Additionally, it serves to maintain you in the trauma-bonded partnership.
Nothing... Read more
The one "type" i'll never date again
It comes in different forms, but I recently learned about "stonewalling" and it was crippling. Dismissing concerns, refusing to listen when your partner needs it, and generally getting defensive anytime a disagreement happens. Over time, it makes you feel angry, confused, and distrustful. So yeah, you definitely end up feeling like you're a problem, get irritable, worrisome, and are eventually... Read more
What is the weirdest psychological fact you know?
The neurological effect of falling in love with someone has a similar effect as getting high on cocaine.
The 68% of people are suffering from Phantom vibration syndrome, the feeling that one’s phone is vibrating when it’s not vibrating
Human memories get distorted over time, so the average person has at least 1 false piece of memory.
Your mind “rewrites”... Read more
Have Realistic Expectations About Relationships and Romance
“You are absolutely not going to be gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives, and all this ‘happily ever after’ bullshit is just setting people up for failure. They go into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. Then, the instant they realize they aren’t ‘gaga’ anymore, they think the relationship is broken and over, and... Read more
The Top Three Ingredients For Relationship Success
There are millions of self-help books out there about how to build the perfect relationship—but as it turns out, relationship success is a lot simpler than it seems. The top three elements that make relationships work are honesty, communication, and commitment, according to a new survey from the UK.
The report, called The State of the UK's Relationships, surveyed over... Read more
Tips for men
- Dress tidy , if you don't have the looks, create it.
- Don't underestimate the power of smelling good! Use Cologne: it's meant to discovered not announced. less is more you want to people to smell you when they hug you not when you enter the room. Less is more.
- Don't be afraid to complement your bro but don't make it... Read more
What's the best way to end a relationship?
To end a relationship peacefully, schedule a time and place where it’s convenient for both parties in an ambient environment with no distractions. Have a honest conversation with your partner in such a loving manner that will allow him/her to understand your perspective.
Help them reasonably understand what your decision is without having a heated conversation.
Understand that he/she may... Read more
20 Ways to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship
The good news is that even after a devastating betrayal like cheating, trust can be rebuilt.5 Not only that, but betrayal is also often the catalyst for reviving a relationship that was in serious trouble long before the betrayal occurred. Healing is a journey, but when two people are deeply committed to understanding, making amends, and recommitting, magic can happen.... Read more
Signs You Should Give Your Partner Space
Many couples cannot figure out if there is enough space in their relationship. If you are thinking about whether you need to give your partner space, here are some signs that will help you make that call:
1. Constant Bickering
Couples who spend too much together may bicker constantly and have frequent fights. If you and your partner are always... Read more
Why Do We Need Space In A Relationship?
An individual brings their uniqueness and individuality to the relationship, which helps the relationship grow and sustain. It is normal for couples to become dependent on each other as time goes by, but losing yourself in the relationship or being together every second of the day can harm the relationship. Giving each other ample space has many benefits for the... Read more